Saturday, June 29, 2013

8 things I thought I knew before I was a mom

I've heard people say from time to time, "people who don't have kids, shouldn't give advice". I never thought this really applied to me, because well....I worked in a daycare and I was a nanny, so I must know it all. Guess what's come to bite me in the ass.

Things I thought I knew....before I was a mom:

  1. You can just lay a baby down while they're sleeping, and they'll continue to sleep 
  • This is the biggest joke I've ever heard. Sweet Pea will not sleep anywhere but my chest or my arms, or if she's really out, she'll sleep in Mister's arms. If you put her down, she wakes up screaming. It's like she knows she's not being held, while she's sleeping.
    2.  When you feed a baby, you just put a bottle in their mouth and let them eat. With the occasional burp of course.
  • No, no, no. There's an exact science behind the feeding of the baby. At least in our case, because she's bottle fed. We have to hold her and the bottle just right, and take it out anytime she starts gulping air. There's also a science to burping. We can't just do it every ounce or two, it's when she stops sucking on the nipple. 
    3.  Babies are nice quiet creatures
  • Yeah....not so much. This kid moans and groans every time she eats, and grunts and snorts every time she is moved. I won't even mention the crying screaming. Let's not forget the farts, she just reminded me of how lady like she is.
    4.  Sleep when the baby sleeps
  • This is quite comical. When the baby sleeps, and she does allow you to put her down, you have crap to do! For me personally, it takes me a good hour to fall asleep anyway. So by the time I fall asleep, Sweet Pea is going to wake up in about another hour. Not to mention, she is the noisiest sleeper! And wiggles so much!
    5.   You can get all your chores done while the baby sleeps
  • Not that I haven't said this enough, but babies don't always let you put them down to get crap done. Some babies insist on being held 24/7. I can not stand having dishes in the sink, or laundry piled up. Usually, I would just strap the baby to me and go to town. But I have to sit while folding laundry, I'm fat and tired, it happens. So leaning over to fold stuff, the baby will fall out. Same goes for the dishes, minus the sitting part. I unfortunately have to stand for that. Although, I still won't let the crap pile up. Thankfully I have a very supportive partner, who does a lot of the work. And I hired my mom to come hold the baby today while I did a couple loads of laundry and washed all the dishes, by hand, because we don't have a dishwasher. So those of you with one, stop complaining.
    6. Everybody loves babies/everyone will be happy for you
  • As unbelievable as it may seem, not everyone loves babies as much as you do. Shocking, I know. You may even lose friends over becoming pregnant or giving birth. Although this is the happiest time of your life, some people also just don't give a crap. I've lost a couple 'friends' since becoming pregnant. I guess we headed in completely different directions in life. But if something so joyous is the demise of your friendship, how solid was the friendship in the first place. On the flip side, other people come out of the woodwork, in a fantastic way! People that you've known all your life may come around more often because there's a new addition to your family, and you know what? It's awesome! 
    7. All babies are cute/look the same
  • LIES! All lies! Your baby is the most adorable, beautiful baby in the world. There is no better creation that the one that you have. 
    8. Starting in toddlerhood, you will never go to the bathroom in peace again.
    • This actually starts at about 2 weeks of age. I shit you not. Today I was trying to take care of business on my own, and Mister brought me a screaming baby. Because, that's what I want while I'm pooping, a screaming baby.
    Life has completely changed since this little miracle arrived just a month ago. All for the better. Well....except for the sleep, I miss sleep....but it's totally worth it! I know it sounds like I'm bitching a lot, but I'm not. I'm really and truly happy. I couldn't see myself any happier in life. I have the perfect family, and I couldn't ask for anything more. 

    How a bottle saved my sanity *well, almost*

    My aunt came over yesterday to visit Sweet Pea. While she was over, we talked about how colicy and gassy Sweet Pea has been. She recommended trying Dr. Brown's bottles, because they're suppose to be great for colic and gas. She said my cousin has some that she can bring down next time she's in town, which should be next week. But, in the meantime, maybe I should pick up a few to hold me over.

    On our way home from the WIC office to exchange the Similac to the sensitive formula, we stopped at Target to pick up a couple packs. We were planning on getting a pack of the 8oz and a pack of the 4oz ones, because she's still only taking 4oz at a time. Unfortunately they were out of the 4oz bottles, so we grabbed a pack of the bigger ones and grabbed a pack of 6oz Playtex VentAire bottles as well. They too said they were made for colic and gas. Couldn't hurt to try.

    When we got home Sweet Pea was hungry, but there was already a bottle made in the fridge, so I didn't get to use my new toy! :( She ate and fussed the whole time. Her next feeding though, oooh I was excited! I've always loved baby stuff, and now I get to have it! She gobbled down the next feeding, with only needing 1 or 2 burps, as opposed to the 3 or 4 she usually needs, screaming the entire time. After she ate, she was a happy little stink bug again. Then comes the next feeding.

    It was hotter than hell yesterday, even hotter inside than out. Our bedroom tends to be the coolest room because the sun rises over there. So we all piled into bed in front of the big box fan and watched some movies on the computer. Of course Sweet Pea was hungry so Mister made her a bottle. He came back in with one of the 'old' ones. I was immediately offended. How could he not be as excited about using the new baby gadget as I was?! He said he was intimidated by the new ones because they had so many parts. They do, like 5 different ones that you have to wash after each use. But it's so worth it. She ate, and fussed and had a hard time burping. Farted her way through the pain in her tummy. She screamed and yelled until she fell asleep. She slept for maybe 30 minutes and woke up hungry again. So Mister made her a 2oz snack, in the proper bottle. She gulped that down, and fell asleep with no fussing at 2:40am, and slept until 6:30am!! I know this may seem like a disgusting amount of sleep, but compare that to screaming from 12am to 7am daily, doesn't seem so bad now, does it?

    At 6:30am, she woke up and I fed her. She fell asleep while burping so I took her back to bed. She woke up 45 minutes later wanting more, so I got up and fed her more. She then slept until 10:45am. That's almost a normal sleeping pattern for a baby! You guys don't understand how exciting this is.

    I may have made a mistake though. I was expecting her to wake up screaming, like she has for the past 3 weeks. So I stayed up until nearly 5am, just waiting. But it never came, and that's what matters. I may be tired today, but if these bottles continue to work like they did yesterday, I'll get to go to sleep at a reasonable hour.

    Thursday, June 27, 2013

    A return of the sweet, Sweet Pea

    Yesterday was probably one of the best days at home since we brought Sweet Pea home from the hospital. In the last 3 weeks at least. She seems to be so much happier since we switched formula. Her tummy is way less bloated than it was, and she is so much less gassy. She even slept in her swing alone for an hour, two separate times! This hasn't happened since we first brought her home. I was able to eat a full meal, fresh without a baby in my hands! I got all the dishes washed and put away, and a load of laundry folded and put away. After that was all done, she was still sleeping! I stood in the middle of the room, looking around. I didn't know what to do with myself. Sure there's hard cleaning that needs to be done, but I'm not up for that yet. I did get her baby book up to date though! Housework will always be here, she'll only be this little for a very short time.
    We ended up taking Sweet Pea to the doctor due to her screaming for 4 hours at a time. The doctor said she had colic. We mentioned that she seemed to be a lot better on Enfamil, before we switched to Similac because of WIC. She wrote a prescription for WIC to give us vouchers for Enfamil gentle ease, but they've refused to take it. Instead they said we're going to need to use Similac sensitive. I'm scared shitless to go back to any form of Similac, she was so miserable on the regular stuff, what if it's all Similac that causes that? Half of her life she spent screaming. I feel so horrible about that, and I don't want it to come back.

    Last night Mister went and picked her up and just held her while we watched a movie. The past few weeks, Sweet Pea wouldn't let anyone hold her while she was awake. She would just fuss and cry and then eventually scream. She actually fell asleep on his chest. It meant so much to both of us. Her screaming has been hard on all of us, but it's definitely taken its toll on Mister. I was even able to go lay down for a couple hours while Mister took care of her by herself. Last night was also the first night in 3 weeks that there was NO purple screaming. She fussed and cried a little, but no horrible gut wrenching screaming. Over all, it was a good night. If every night were like that, this would be a cake walk.

    This weekend it's going to start getting hot. I hate the heat, and so does Sweet Pea. It's suppose to be 99* on Tuesday!! NOT looking forward to that! 

    Mister is thinking of calling his brother this weekend to try and set up getting together. They still don't know about Sweet Pea, and I'm very antsy to have them meet her. I feel more and more guilty about them not knowing about her. The BIL's twins are going to be a year old next month! I can't believe it. These babies just grow up way too fast. My nephew is going to be two in August! It feels like he just arrived. 

    Hopefully this calmness will continue on the Similac sensitive, otherwise I don't know what we'll do. Things are happy again. Our sweet little girl has returned.

    Monday, June 24, 2013

    Rough Day

    Today was a bit of a rough day. Sweet Pea has been quite fussy all day. Nothing seems to be settling her down. Ever since we made the horrible mistake of giving her 2 ounces of Enfamil, she's been extremely gassy and cranky. We've been reading about acid reflux and we're a little concerned that she might have it.

    She screamed harder than I've ever heard her scream today. She had actual tears running down her face. It was completely heartbreaking. I cried right along with her.

    We've thrown out all the enfamil, but we're thinking of making a doctors appointment for her as well. She also has a white spot on her tongue tie, it almost looks like a canker sore. Mister has suffered from them all his life, it's an auto immune disorder. I really hope that's not what it is, because Mister seems to be in a great deal of pain when he gets them.

    I'll repeat. Today was rough. I had to go running to my placenta pills, they did help. There have been tears from both Sweet Pea and I. We did get a 2 hour nap together, and that helped, until it didn't anymore.

    Steven King's Under The Dome comes on tonight, I'm quite excited. I read part of the book before I got sick last summer. I mean....the book is ridiculously huge, but it's pretty good.

    Mister is making dinner and I got to pig out on hummus as a snack. The day may have been rough, but the night will be better. Watching this little angel sleep makes me forget all the screaming.

    Sunday, June 23, 2013

    1 Month update

     I can't believe my little girl is already a month old! It seems like she's only been here for like a day, but then I also can't remember life without her.

    She's changed and grown so much. I'm sad that this is going so quickly, I'm trying to hold on to every memory. She really is the most beautiful thing I've ever seen.

    Last night was by far our most difficult night. We were up at my mom's and as we were getting ready to leave, she was hungry. We had an 'instant' bottle of enfamil formula that we were given, the problem is, Sweet Pea is on Similac because that's what WIC gives out. The mix of formula brands upset her tummy something fierce and gave her horrible gas. She was up for nearly 4 hours screaming in pain. It was horrible. After a nice long warm bath and about an hour of back pats, she finally fell asleep. It seriously broke my heart, I cried right along with her.

    Enjoy one of the first pictures of Sweet Pea, compared to her most recent.

    Tuesday, June 18, 2013

    Sweet Pea update *Plus a huge photo drop*

    Remember when I said we had a nice little routine going? Yea...the day after I wrote that, it went right out the window. Sweet Pea has taken to only wanting to sleep on my chest or in my arms. I absolutely love holding her, but at some point I would like some sleep too. We are doing quite a bit of laundry as of late. She has been spitting up a lot. It wouldn't be so bad if it was just her clothes that got hit, but we get covered too.

    We went for a walk in the park the other day, and she started fussing quite a bit. I'm still trying to figure out which cries mean what, so I figured she was just hungry because we had just changed her *at which point she peed all over herself while the diaper was off* so we sat down on a bench and I began to feed her. At about an ounce in, I sat her up to burp her as I usually do, she just screamed and rooted around for more, so I laid her back down to feed her a little more. And then it happened....a volcanic explosion of baby puke hit me right in the face and down my front. O.o We still had a couple places to go, so I had to clean myself up with baby wipes and change her outfit yet again. She was much happier after getting all that crud out of her.
    I'm healing up extremely well. I went to the doctor today to check up on everything, and my scar looks really well. I have some scar tissue, but that's to be expected. I've had a headache for over 10 days, I'm pretty sure it's a tension headache from holding her in a certain position during the day and while we sleep. I've been holding her more with my other arm, and it's a tad better.
    She has changed so much in the last 3.5 weeks. In these pictures, she's only 10 days old and she doesn't look like that at all anymore! I'm planning on doing a little 1 month update later this week. I can't believe she's going to be a month old already! Sometimes it feels like she's always been her, and I can't remember life without her, but sometimes it feels like I just had her.

    We went and saw my Grandparents today, they love seeing her. They gave Sweet Pea a silver cup with her name and date of birth engraved on it, I cried of course. My Grandma also gave me a blanket that her Grandmother made my dad when he was born. That would be Sweet Pea's Great-great-great Grandma!! I may have also cried with that one as well.

    We have had a few visitors since Sweet Pea was born. We, well I, love showing her off. She's just so beautiful. We made it clear that we needed at least a day's notice before people visit. Just to make sure the puke clothes are hidden in the wash and the dishes aren't piled in the sink. lol Actually we've been doing really well on staying on top of everything. It's gotten a little tricky since she doesn't like being put down for more than 20 minutes.

    Not much more to update on yet, just sit back and enjoy the adorable pictures.

    Thursday, June 6, 2013

    2 weeks old!!

    I can't believe it! My beautiful baby girl is two weeks old! This time two weeks ago, I was just coming out of recovery, from my surgery to deliver this perfect angel.

    She changes so much every day. And her growing is happening way too fast! She's now out of newborn onesies, and into 0-3 months! It's a little heartbreaking. She's eating 3+ oz, which is 90ML, at a time, when she was first born we had to fight to get 5ML in her! We've graduated from the bottles that the hospital gave us, and into small 'big' baby bottles. She will now sleep on her own in her bassinet for an hour or two, when she was first born, she wouldn't sleep anywhere but mine or her daddy's chest. She's growing way too fast.

    I took the tape off my incision last night, and got to see it finally. It's barely noticeable. No infection, and has healed up really well. I'm still moving a little slower than usual, but I'm practically good as new. I'm off the pain medication all together!

    Nothing else to really report. I just realized I probably said all of this in the post I forgot I did yesterday. Let's blame it on new mommy brain. So I'll leave you with adorable pictures!

    Wednesday, June 5, 2013

    Getting into a routine

    I started writing my birth story, but it's a little overwhelming. So it will take a while.

    Things around here are beginning to settle down, we're finally getting into a routine. I say finally, but it's only been 12 days since Daphne was born, and we've only been home 9 days. But because of all of the appointments we had during the pregnancy, it feels like much longer.

    I get up at around 11am, and come spend time with my beautiful daughter and amazing Mister. We putz around the house, take turns feeding and holding Daphne. Around 5pm we start to watch a movie or two, have dinner and spend time as a family until around 8pm when Mister heads to bed. Then I have the baby on my own until about 2am, when I wake Mister. He comes out to the front room and naps on the couch, waking every couple hours to change and feed Daphne. While I have her on my own, I try to get some things done, but usually I get sucked into just cuddling her, and before I know it, it's time for bed. I don't know what Mister does while I'm sleeping, but I have a suspicion he holds her the whole time too.

    I realize that this is not the conventional way of taking care of a baby, but we're not exactly a conventional family. This works for us. Really well. I miss spending more time with Mister, I miss cuddling with him in bed while I fall asleep, but this is the only way we can both get a reasonable amount of sleep. We are not sleep deprived. How many new parents of a newborn can say that?

    I'm healing up pretty well. If I move slow, I can do pretty much anything I could do before the surgery. I'm finally off the narcotics, but still taking Ibuprofen. My swelling has gone down quite a bit, it was pretty bad there for a while. I've actually lost a little over 30lbs since delivering Daphne! And she's back up to her birth weight. We're all doing very well.

    We went and got newborn photos done of the little angel. That was a bit of a hassle. I can totally understand why people hire photographers to come to their house, because going to a studio where they take lots of appointments is a pain in the ass. We should get her pictures back next week, they are beautiful.

    I can't believe how fast Daphne is growing. I put on a newborn onesie tonight, because it's too hot for a full sleeper, but too cool to be nakey, and it's probably the last time she'll be able to wear it!! We're on our last pack of newborn diapers, meaning we're about to move up to size one. I'm a little heartbroken. I cried when her cord stump fell off. She's already growing up too fast. I'm trying to cherish every moment.

    I've never been this happy in my entire life. I'm so in love with life right now.